Have you heard the great news?!
Jun 08, 2021
Seriously guys, this is like the BEST NEWS EVER. And it will blow your mind. And change your life. AND, all mind-blowing and life-changing can start, like, right away!!
Ok, I know, the suspense is too much to bear, so I’ll go ahead and share the news with you now…
You get to decide how you want to feel in your life and create that feeling for yourself with your thoughts. REGARDLESS of circumstances!!!
Pretty crazy, right? And maybe seems a little bit too good to be true? I hear you, I thought that at first too. Until I started living it. For real. No joke.
*Now, let me preface the rest of this post by asserting that there will be times when you’ll actually want to feel some sort of ‘negative’ emotion. For example, if someone close to you were to die, I’ll bet you’d probably want to, choose to feel sad. Or, if an employee stole a bunch of money from you, you might want to, choose to feel angry or disappointed, at least for some amount of time. And that’s all ok. Just because we can choose something different than our automatic reaction to something doesn’t mean that we 'should' or will even always want to make that choice. Make sense?
Ok then, back to the main point, which is that so often we will want to choose something different than our ingrained, practiced, go-to response to something.
Didn’t get that job you wanted? Feeling regretful? These feelings not serving you in any way? Perhaps in this case you’d like to feel something different. And I understand--maybe it seems like feeling regretful is inevitable by way of the situation itself, like 'of course that's how I have to feel.' Well, it is most definitely NOT inevitable and there are a zillion other feelings available to you in this case.
So, how do we intentionally conjure a new feeling you may ask? By intentionally choosing a different thought that authentically creates that feeling.
For example, let’s suppose that you are tired of feeling regretful, which you are feeling when you think ‘I wish I had gotten that job —it would have been so perfect for me.’
Perhaps you decide that curiosity is the new feeling you’d like to live into instead. Maybe you're not looking to feel something like thrilled or happy about not getting it, but there's got to be something that feels better than regretful, right?
What thought could you design to create curiosity?
Perhaps something like:
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‘I wonder what opportunities are awaiting me that I don’t even know about yet for not having gotten this job?’ Or,
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‘I wonder in what ways that job wasn’t right for me?’ Or,
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'In what ways might this turn of events be happening for me, rather than to me?’
As you read those thought options to yourself, do you feel how they create a feeling of curiosity (and/or perhaps openness, optimism, or something else)? As compared to the feelings invoked in you when you read the thought ‘I wish I had gotten that job —it would have been so perfect for me.’?
This reframing is powerful, life-changing, and available to everyone. That means you too.
ππΌππΌππΌAre you feeling stuck in a particular reaction to a situation you're finding yourself in?
ππΌππΌWhat is the feeling that you're feeling stuck in?
ππΌCan you think of a different feeling that might serve you better, that you could conjure with a reframing of your thoughts? Please, share with us below in the comments section!
P.S. If you would like my one-on-one help with the reframing of thought patterns, negative mind chatter, and self-limiting beliefs please reach out to me and we can talk.
Remember:
You are not stuck...
Change is just one first step away.
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